How To Change Limiting Beliefs About Yourself
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Something that we all struggle with is Limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs are so important because they’re part of the subconscious that drives our actions and habits. Identifying these limiting beliefs and learning how to recognize and work with them as they come up is great work in helping us to overcome them!
In this episode, I share two ways to overcome limiting beliefs as well as share my current journey of overcoming my own limiting beliefs about putting myself out there!
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Hi there and welcome to searching for better. I’m Julia, and I’m the blogger behind searching for better.net , which is now the podcast searching for better is all about exploring ideas on how to find our path in life and to live it wholeheartedly. So welcome to our share , and I really, really hope you enjoy it.Speaker 2: 0:23
Hi guys, and welcome to searching for better. I’m so excited to be recording this episode today. Um, and this one is such an important topic. I always say that, but I feel like every time I speak about it, I just get so excited today. I want to talk about beliefs and how to change negative beliefs. Now, why is he so important? Um, mainly because our beliefs are in our subconscious and as we know, our subconscious is what drives our actions and behavior. So essentially what I’ve learned recently, which has been so empowering is by Dr. Bruce Lipton. And he talks about how our , uh, programming, so our beliefs , um, which is part of our programming is shaped from the age of zero to seven. And obviously as we go along in life that we’ll adjust to, but we have a lot of core beliefs that we seek with that have been developed over years. Um, and obviously sometimes we’re not fully aware of these beliefs and sometimes we are, and we don’t know how to change them. So a key core belief for me has definitely been doing these type of work. And this is why I have found it challenging because it goes against a few core beliefs that I have a few that have really been cemented through childhood where a lot of the times where achievements were recognized. And my family was proud was usually when it was some form of external achievement, like going to uni or getting a certain job. Um, there’s a lot of expectation around that. So what happens is over time, I’ve developed a beliefs of how I should be and what I should do and what means success and what doesn’t. So, as you can see doing these type of work challenged a lot of those beliefs because I was working off programming that said that to be successful. I had to do X, Y, and Z. So when I was trying to do this type of work, I really struggled because I felt as though it wasn’t the part that I was, should be taking, essentially, it was challenging the identity that I had built based around the expectations and the beliefs and the programming that I had been , um, that I’d seen as a child. So I feel like this is where the challenge is at. I feel like every time we struggle with something big making a change change, it’s usually because it challenges a belief in a certain identity. That’s tied to that belief. And that’s what I really liked. Um, when I read atomic habits, the author spoke a lot about identity based outcomes. So what happens is when we try to shift , uh, create a new habit or create a new goal, what we’re actually doing is we’re shifting the way that we think of ourselves. And that’s the challenge. The challenge isn’t necessarily the goal. It’s the fact that we don’t feel as though we are the type of person that can achieve that goal. And I know that personally from my own struggles and from this work that it’s taken a lot of time, a lot of digging for me to truly understand the beliefs that I’ve had and how I can shift those. So how do we actually change our beliefs? I feel like a lot of content covers, you know, what we need to do, but doesn’t always explain how to do it. And that’s really what I want to focus on in this episode. So as I was studying this sort of stuff about programming and subconscious and, you know, all that stuff that we learn as children, that’s really embedded in that subconscious place, how do we change that? And Dr. Bruce Lipton was the person that I looked at and found some great answers. And he said, there are two ways that we can change our programming. So for me, that’s part of our beliefs. Um, and he said that we can either change through repetition or change their hypnosis. So for me, what I’ve done recently, which has been really, really great is I’ve called a , sorry, I’ve used an app called envision and envision is a visualization app. And obviously you work through the vision that you have for yourself, the type of person that you want to be. And you visualize being that person every day. And what it does is it creates this thing where it’s called your empowered state. So you have like an intention that you set, and then every time you say that intention, what you’re doing is you’re bringing about that empowered state. Now that has been game-changing for me. And I feel as though the reason I’m doing this work and I’ve really amped it up is because of the consistent habit that I’ve created through visualization. And the fact that it is definitely started to challenge some of those deep seated beliefs I have about what I can do. And what’s possible for me in terms of my work and putting myself out there. So I really wanted to talk about this today because I feel like this is the part that’s the most important, the repetition. So another key point that I want to make out is repetition does not have to be hours of repetition. I only do 10 minutes a day. I also do five minutes of breath work, which has been really helpful. And I’ve kept them short on purpose so that we face less rent, less mental resistance. Now, if you want to hear more about that, you can go back to my recent episode where I talk about mental resistance. I’m sorry, two episodes ago where I speak about mental resistance and how to make change, feel less overwhelming. So the idea is that to change, to create true change and to reach the goals that we want to reach and , and do, and to achieve the things we want to achieve. We first have to look at shifting those beliefs again, identity based outcome. It goes back to being the type of person that we want, who can achieve those types of goals. So for me, the visualization and imagining myself being that type of person and achieving the things that I want to achieve has helped me to adjust my sense of self. And that’s what happens when we go through a process repetitively like visualization, it actually reaches parts of the brain. And it’s really interesting because your brain does not know whether something is actually happening or whether you’re imagining it. And it’s the same idea is if you close your eyes and you imagine a piece of cake, you’re literally your mouth starts to salivate. You literally start to feel as though that piece of cake is in front of you. And that’s because our mind does not know the difference between what’s actually there and what we’re imagining. So for me, I feel like doing that visualization process has helped me to really shift my beliefs because obviously if I am consistently telling myself that I am this type of person already, my, my identity and my sense of self will shift to match that. And I definitely feel like that is something that has created a world of change for me recently, I feel so much more motivated, so much more. Um , I have so much more faith in the type of work that I’m doing. Um , more confidence in myself as well. And I have noticed too, that it’s also helped me to become more aware of when certain thoughts come up that might not be helping me. So for example, another thing that happens with this sort of repetition is eventually the brain gets a message. Okay, now we need to look out for things that are going to help us to match that repetition. So for example, when I’m working on my, these visualization, eventually it gets to the part of the brain where it starts to look for things to help me achieve the person that I want to be. And so for me, that’s been a really interesting process because it’s helped me to become more aware of the thoughts that I have. Now, if you want to look at awareness, I’ve also done another episode on that, which is really great. It gives you the steps that have helped to become, to become more aware. And this is just another part of this change process. So I will make sure to link that in the description below as well, but something that’s really interesting is that now as I get certain thoughts or certain , um, you know, I tell myself certain things, you know, sometimes when we’re trying to achieve something, we might get something in our mind. Like I can’t do this. I’ve noticed that I have become more aware of it and I can challenge it more. And I definitely feel as though that is linked to the fact that I’ve been constantly repeating this process of visualization. So if you’re looking to change a core belief, and there’s a certain goal that you’re struggling to achieve, because you just don’t feel like you’re the type of person that can achieve it. I would highly recommend focusing on this idea of repetition or hypnosis. So hypnosis has heaps of apps out there, and this is something that I’m going to be trying myself, but I can personally vouch for repetition. And I can definitely say that the visualization process has been really helpful. So I will add the link below to the app that I use, which is called envision. And it’s really good. They explain the process really well. Um, and I just, I love it. I think that they have done a great job of it and I found it so helpful. Now, some other ways of repetition is obviously, for example, when I challenge my beliefs and my train of thinking, for example, and if I feel like I can’t do something and I stop and say, no, I can, again, that’s our repetition, isn’t it. I have to be continuously aware of that thought. And then I continuously and compassionately challenge it. So don’t forget to check out the episode where I go into more depth about that, but that’s another way, and this is where self-affirmations come in as well. And I know some people are on the fence about it, but when I really started to dig deep into the research, I understood why it’s important to constantly be repeating these types of things to ourselves, because eventually that repetition does get into the subconscious and it does change our programming. So if affirmations work for you, then that’s definitely another way to do it. And that’s another way that you can journal as well, where you can constantly practice , uh , affirmations and re repeating affirmations through journaling and writing them down constantly. So that’s another way as well. And I really loved it because in his video, the biology of belief , uh , he also, Dr. Bruce Lipton also talks about that whole fake it till you make it. And that’s that whole idea by practicing being that type of person. Eventually what we do is we change the programs and we start to change our sense of self. Now, I do want to emphasize though, when it comes to these, it can be overwhelming. So I think it’s really important to keep those actions to five minutes. So for example, if there’s a new skill that you want to learn, maybe commit to just five minutes of learning it, or if there’s a new challenge, for example, if you want to put yourself out there and Instagram, maybe it’s about a five minute video or something that you can do in five minutes or less citing those habits , um , in a small way, but in a repetitive way as well. So I think that this is such an important point and a such important thing, important thing for us to know when it comes to wanting to shift our beliefs, because that is the biggest challenge when it comes to reaching goals and becoming the person that we are usually it’s, it’s the resistance against the person that we already think we are. And the way to go about that again, is about shifting our beliefs. So again, repetition, visualization has been super helpful, but affirmations , um , that whole idea of fake it till you make it again, trying hypnosis is another opportunity to practice shifting those beliefs, but even just understanding that and understanding how why , and , and why we act the way we act is also another thing that gets into our awareness and helps us to change. So I hope you found this episode really helpful. Again, remember that changing beliefs is all about getting into that subconscious and working through change with repetition. Uh , again, I will link the app below that I use the envision app, but if you like this content, and if you like these ideas definitely join the membership, a wait list . The membership is something I’ve created that is going to be going through all these topics in more depth, but also helping us to become the person that we want to be and create the changes we want to create in a community setting with different topics each month and small five, 10 minute activities we can do to help us to shift our idea of ourselves, to help us change our sense of self. And again, become the person that we truly want to be. So we can create the life that we truly want for ourselves. So I hope you’ve enjoyed this episode, as I always say, take what resonates, leave what doesn’t thank you so much for being here. I will catch you in the next episode.