How To Find Clarity Of Mind (How To Be A GirlBoss Habit #1)

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Clarity Of Mind ¹

(This series is based on the book High Performance Habits: How Extraordinary People Become That Way. I highly recommend this book to create real, life changing habits. I was not paid to write this OR given this book for free. I genuinely love it and have found it absolutely life changing for me – in just the few weeks of reading it – so I wanted to share it. I hope you find it the same for you!)

“Our research shows that compared with their peers, high performers have more clarity on who they are, what they want, how to get it, and what they find meaningful & fulfilling.”- Brendon Burchard, High Performance Habits ²

The first habit in the how to be a girl boss and habits of successful people series is… clarity of mind. ³

They know who they are, who they want to be & they figure out what they have to do to get there. ⁴

But the most important bit in how to be a girl boss and finding clarity of mind is to stay close to who you are. In keeping a habit of clarity of mind, successful people keep their values & what they find important. ⁵

And that’s half the problem with our goals. I know, for years, I was chasing the right goals.  I set so many goals and started 3 businesses before I figured out that the types of businesses weren’t what I wanted. They had nothing to do with my deeper values & what mattered to me. I had absolutely no clarity of mind.

Relevant content: 

• 5 Goals Journals To Give You A Head Start For 2018
  
• Goal Setting Worksheets To Get It Together for 2018
  
• Why Your Goals Feel Unachievable (And How To Change That)
  
• 5 Tips For Setting Motivating Goals

So while we might have it all figured out & think we know who you want to be and how to be a girlboss, we have to constantly ask ourselves – are we really chasing what matters to us? Do we really have clarity of mind?

Sometimes to get a bit more clarity, we have to delve a bit more into how we want to feel rather than just who we want to be and work backwards from there.

THEN we can ask ourselves, “To feel that way, what type of person would you have to be?”, “What kind of goals what you have?”.

It’s important to remember too is that clarity of mind is something we gain over time. ⁶

It’s something we develop by experimenting & constantly questioning ourselves. ⁷

The four main areas of clarity

Burchard says high performers have four main areas of clarity: ⁸

• “Self” ⁹ (they focus on what they can do to keep growing & learning) ¹⁰
• “Social” ¹¹ (they know they want to be perceived and how they want to “treat people” ¹²)
• “Skills” ¹³ (they know the skills they need to have to get where they want to be) ¹⁴
• “Service” ¹⁵ (they see a vision bigger then themselves, they see how what they’re bringing to the society ¹⁶)

How to get more clarity

The way Burchard helps you find clarity of mind in these areas is by giving you specific prompts.

I’ve been doing the High Performance Habits activities for the past few weeks and they’re amazing.

It’s a great way to stop and think with some guidance!

He also gives you a free Clarity Chart. It’s a weekly worksheet to answer all the clarity questions he has in the book.

Otherwise, try writing your own questions based on the four main areas of clarity above.

Some ideas could be:

Self

• How do I want to feel?
• What goals would I need to get there?
• Am I on purpose today?

Social

• Am I giving my absolute best to my family today?
• What example am I setting to my family & friends?
• What example do I want to set?

Etc! Remember it’s whatever works for you!

Keep it mind, finding clarity is a journey of trying, seeing & questioning! ¹⁷